Relationship Cycles - Do you seem to attract the same kind of person?

Ex or Nah?

Have you been dating someone new and suddenly realized this person seems overly familiar but in sort of a bad way?

Some of us are inclined to attract the same type of person whenever we endeavor in a new relationship.  Why is that?  Are we drawn to this familiar, charismatic charm that got us hooked the last time.  Are we secretly hoping to restore or duplicate that situation?  Why does it often seem like the same script, but a different cast?

I have a friend who is very giving and somehow always ends up with a leech.  She always attracts guys who are borderline losers but very charming and sweet at first.  They are usually in need of something or recovering from some situation involving a close friend, money, or a recently failed relationship.  My friend is always more than willing to be a comforter.   After they've reel her in, then their true colors show.  Sometimes I think its not entirely her fault, maybe its the men who seek her out in the first place.  Maybe we are sometimes victims to a grander scheme thats out of our control and we naively find ourselves in a sticky mess.

How do you feel when you realize your current partner is simply the ex with a new head tacked on?

Will Smith: “My Marriage Has Died”

This is an interesting article on Will Smith and Jada's marriage of 18 years.

"This isn’t the first time the couple has had to defend their marriage from rumors.  In 2013, Jada responded to rumors about her and Will having an open relationship:
“Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so,” she clarified. “This does NOT mean we have an open relationship…this means we have a GROWN one.”

Read more here Will Smith: “My Marriage Has Died”